Men vs Women

Hey everyone,

I was reading a blog post today (by the darling Miss Bangs) about which sex lies the most and it got me thinking about the the sexes which is worse men or women?

Growing up I was surrounded by women who had been used and abused by men and my own experience weren't any better. I really believed that there was never going to be a man that lived up to my expectations and all I needed to succeed in life was myself. The men and boys in the area were I grew up seem to seal the fate of all men in my eyes by being spineless, selfish and ignorant but what shocked me more was that the women no matter what the man did would take them back no questioned asked! There were little girls running around trying to impress these spineless idiots who would harass anyone who was the slightest bit different. They were all like sheep all colourless and grey with no discernible personality. I couldn't understand it all until I hit puberty then it became a whole different ball game!

Growing up I was a bit of a tomboy and had never had any interest from the boys or wanted it! The only interaction I had with them was if I was in a fight! I had one boyfriend who lavished attention on me as long as we wasn't in the public eye. I wasn't popular and nor did I want to be and because of him being popular he never wanted to be seen with me in the end the relationship ended because I didn't want to be sold short. I wanted a man in shining armour who was going to fight for my honour and not be dictated by what over people thought about him.

When I did eventually start getting boys attention I was unbelievably nieve! You would think by seeing so many women abused that I had learnt by their mistakes right? wrong! I tired and failed many times to find that "Mr. Right and never succeed. I suffered with server depression when I was younger and never really had much self esteem. I made some really stupid mistakes and was treated horribly by some boys but I felt that was all I was worth. The boys, now men have probably never looked back on how they treated me they probably never think they did any wrong but by their treatment of me each one of them nailed each and every nail in my coffin. By the age of 15 I felt like life wasn't worth living.

But there was light at the end of that deep and dark tunnel in the form of my now husband. I met him while I was bunking of school trying to impress a guy who was bad news for me (although I will admit I was quite impressed with myself as he was very popular with the ladies!) but once I saw my husband something just clicked! I fell head over hills in love with him. I was like a love sick puppy (its true! you can ask my mum!) there was nothing he could do that would put me off of him. I met a women once who is a prophet who told me my husband is my Boaz (Boaz was a man in the bible who fell in love with Ruth and saved her life) and he really did save my life.

The point I'm making is that I went from completely hating men to having a man who completely changed my view and who I now depend on. He is my knight in shinning armour the guy who will fight for my honour and who defiantly has is own personality! When I was well enough I cooked and cleaned the house not because he oppressed me but because I love him. When he tells me not to do something its out of love (well most of the time!) I'm not saying his perfect but who is?

I've known men who have abused women and I've known women who abuse men the point is we can't tar everyone with the same brush. I'm not saying that we should just disregard all our experiences as our mistakes are what makes us and we must learn from them but think about what your looking for and the message you are sending out. Sometimes its bad luck that we choose someone who abuses us but sometimes we can also send out a message of low self esteem and thats what these people prey on. I know I did and I'm not saying that it was my fault that I was abused but I never felt like I was worth any different, I never stopped the abuse. 

All I'm really trying to say is don't push someone good away because your scared of being hurt again but don't settle for anything less either! There is no rule book or manual to love but as long as you stay true to yourself that person will find you. There will be that fateful day when you finally meet and everything in your life will make sense! 

In conclusion there is no answer to who is worse because its not question of sex its a question on human nature. There is not a reason why its a matter of these peoples choices in life and in the end its them who's got to answer to their actions.

As always thank you for reading and be blessed! xxxx